Your day was going normal. Everything looked fantastic. The exams are over and you are almost ready to pack your bags with your parents to the holiday destination you planned. You go through the messages on your School WhatsApp Group and suddenly you find that the group admin has added your ex boy friend!



Within seconds your calm brain becomes a center of thought that starts processing theories. The first possible theory that moves inside your brain would be : 'I guess the Admin wants to embarrass me. Maybe he knows about us and purposely added him here so we become the talk of the group.' The second theory would be: 'Maybe my ex wants to communicate with me and he requested the admin to add me. Sometimes he acts smart.' Another theory would be 'Maybe the Admin doesn't know about him but some group member wants to embarrass us.'


And just as you run out of conspiracy theories you start thinking differently 'Oh maybe now he thinks I asked the Admin to add him - coz I want him to get impressed by my intelligence in this group..Huh!' Life must have been so wonderful before WhatsApp!


Now since he's in the group and you can't do anything much about it, here are some tips to handle the situation so long as we have WhatsApp around.


Be calm. Converse with all your friends as you did before he entered the group. Don't let other members know that you are affected by his coming in. Don't talk too much or shy away from conversations. Be yourself.


Take his presence positively. There's no need to make him feel jealous. Stay humble. Stay kind. Perhaps he wants to build a relation with you again and if you too want that then don't let this stint spoil the chances of you both getting along together again.


You can laugh at his jokes if you find them funny but don't react to every comment he makes. Use Emojis just as you use them for others. You can address him in conversations. If others are mentioning his name you too can join. If he does not respond you need not worry. Maybe he is busy. Maybe he wants to be neutral like you.


Do not contradict his views without any strong reason because that may make him want to confront with you offline. Do not tease him about anything personal you both shared during the good times. He may feel embarrassed.


Group members may ask you questions about your past. The best thing would be to ignore such questions and inform the person through direct messaging that you do not like such questions being asked in the group. If you choose to answer then you can reply their questions sportingly.



Do not leave the group just because he is around and reading your messages. If he leaves the group, leave him alone and carry on with your life. However If there are chances of you both making up then definitely go for it!